Monday, September 15, 2008

Why is it so hard to get money back?

You know ... People owe you money and yet it's so hard to ask it back from them ... why is it so ???

There this guy who owe me Money since Italy hosted the World Cup ... he lost money with soccer bets, borrowed money from me, never made it a point to return me and along the way, I sort of lost contact with him.

I met him again in Sim Lim and found out that he is working in one of the shops there and you think I would immediately ask him the money that he owe me ... but noooooooo, I talk to him, chat him up like old friend and even ask him which webcam is cheap and good ... while the outstanding 400 bucks is constantly on my mind.

Eventually, I left him after getting his contact and thought that the next time, I will ask him.

That was a few months ago ... I did went back once but couldn't locate him until today ... when I was getting my refill on inks and Dvd-R.

The most unbelievable thing was that we chit chat about the price of DVD-R and I still find it so hard to bring up the money he owe me ... He offered to help me get some staff discount on the Dvd-Rs I wanted and it made it even more difficult to ask him ...

Lucky, he couldn't locate the stuff I wanted and I just cut to the chase, told him that if it's ever possible to get my money back. I was surprise that he was very willing and even took out $100 on the spot to return me.

But what was slightly unpleasant was that he said: "How come You never ask me for it?"

Actually I did during the 90s when I was still able to contact him ... and in the first place, he borrowed money from me and I had to do the asking??

Nevertheless, I was quite happy to recover a certain portion of money that I thought would have to be written off as Bad Debts .... but that question still bugs me till no end ...

Why issit so hard to get money back ... specially from friends ??

6 comments:

Deed said...

i fully know what you mean. I face the same thing too.

Weird thing is we are the lender but feel so "embarrassed" chasing money back.

I am not sure how they think. For me, if I owe someone money...it will be on my mind constantly and I will make sure I pay them at the first available chance.

Are they weird or am I the weird person instead? haha... ...

richardlimjr said...

well if you are weird ... then there are two of us

I think ppl r unwilling to part with their money so if can drag a day, drag a day. not very automatic I would say

anyway ... after a couple of lessons in the past, I no longer lend ppl money cos it's easy for them to borrow but hard to get back

Deed said...

birds of the same feathers flock together...that's why we are friends? haha...

well, i guess can only say treat as lessons learnt lor.(but i attended so many of such lessons wo).

Still, I think I am learning my lessons...*I think*

But honestly, I still believe there are honest people like you and me out there *somewhere*

richardlimjr said...

well ... one type of grain feed many different ppl ? Plus u r those who are too good to bully one ... so I tihnk i will be borrowing money from u soon ...

hmmm I think this post might have caused one of my friends to pay me suddenly ... i dont know how to tell him ... i wasn't thinking of him when I wrote this post ...

there are far too many bad debts from my 90s account record and I am thinking of them

Deed said...

haha..I tot good friends are suppose to be kept and protected??? haha...and u say I am too good to be bullied???? Gosh, you break my heart wo...

well, in a sense, isn't it good that pp "volunteered" to pay??? *grins*

richardlimjr said...

hahaha welll u won't be the first to say that ... dont u know my nick name is the bully ?

well i actually felt a bit paiseh that ppl offer to pay me back : )